Don’t be to Hard on Yourself

Merciful Jesus, I consecrate myself today and always to Your most Sacred Heart.
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, I implore, that I may ever love You more and more.
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, I Trust in You!
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us!
Sacred Heart of Jesus, I believe in Your love for me.
Jesus, meek and humble of heart, make my heart like Your Heart. Amen

It has been one of those weeks full of some very stressful spiritual and emotional moments added to that the normal work with interruptions and a busy schedule and the time for reflecting and writing has just slipped away and has been difficult to find…so what am I to do?
Very simple, I will take some spiritual advice I often give…don’t be hard on yourself. If you don’t have the time for everything do what you can. Finally, a little bit of prayer is better than no prayer.
Here is a short reflection with just a little bit of writing. Let’s begin with a quote from Venerable Fulton J. Sheen, “Although a great deal of nonsense has been written about the interior life of men in our day, it is still true that the twentieth century is still closer to God than the nineteenth century was. We are living on the eve of one of the greatest spiritual revivals of human history. Souls are sometimes closest to God when they feel themselves farthest away from Him, at the point of despair. For an empty soul, the Divine can fill; a worried soul, the Infinite can pacify. A self concerned, proud soul, however, is it accessible to grace.” (p17 “Way to Happiness”) These words always bring solace to my soul knowing even in the darkness God’s will is being done. Even in a week of craziness, pain and trouble, God’s will is being done. Even realizing these words of solace were written in the 1950’s God speaks to us through Sacred Scripture and says, “A thousand years in your sight are like a day that has just gone by, or like a watch in the night.” (Ps 90:4) Stay faithful. Stay true. Stay in the presence of Jesus.
So…that is it for the week with these final words from St. Teresa of Avila

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away;
god never changes
Patience obtains all things
whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices. Amen

God Bless
Fr. Mark

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We are not there yet….but we can be with the help of everyone together…So once more, thank you to all who have supported our “Clean Shave for a Clean Start” campaign…if all goes well we will be shaving on the steps of St. Lucy Church on July 14th at around 2:30 p.m. in the afternoon. The money we are raising is to close the gap in the ADA and Capital Campaign so we can confidently plan for the renovations knowing we have the resources on hand to complete the full project. Attached is the link to donate…all gifts, large and small, are important in building the camaraderie of a community of joy.

The Beautiful Beard and Being Who We are

If everything goes to plan in about one month I will be beardless. The fun and the silliness of our “closing the gap” campaign is bearing great fruit and it looks like the shaving will occur. I found myself the other evening as I brushed my teeth getting ready for bed to really take a good look at my beard and thinking in my mind…”Boy, does my beard look good!” and then sigh at the thought of it going away.
Many people have expressed the support of the beauty of my beard but for some odd reason many, many more have a dislike for my beautiful beard. Whatever the case I will be happy to sacrifice my beard for the good of the parish and the happiness of my Mom and my other family and friends who would like to see the beard go the way of the wooly mammoth.
Now, there is a spiritual gift involved in this for both those who are giving and hoping the beard goes and for me and the remnant who know beauty when they see it. The gift of giving in hope is a blessing of generosity and of community. Choosing to give of the self and join in a movement of good are important aspects of becoming one in a unity that makes us better in who we are as friends and neighbors. It is in building camaraderie we discover the blessing of who we are beyond the what we do.
It is also true for me, who will be loosing the beauty of the beard, and my loyal companions that we too build this unity and joy but also in the sacrificial offering of something greater. It builds the heart of humility of knowing there is a greater and grander plan God has for us in life.
Ultimately it is the camaraderie of who we are and not what we do on which I wish to focus. I know it took the beauty of the beard to get to this point but it is an important point. When the Catholic Church talks about vocation and how our Bishop Oscar Cantú from San Jose talks about building a culture of vocation this is the reality of the word: it is who we are and not what we do. If I use myself as an example: my vocation in the Catholic Church is that of an ordained priest. As a priest I do many things, and some of these works are reserved only to a priest, the calling to a vocation is still about becoming who God has made us to be created in his own likeness as sons and daughters. My mission isn’t to “do the work” of a priest but to conform my life to Jesus Christ in my vocation as priest. The becoming who we are cannot be done in isolation from the Body of Christ, the people of God. And this is how we understand all “vocation” as St. Paul reminds us, conforming ourselves to the image of Jesus is the ultimate goal of everyone. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Eph 5:25) In other words, dying to ourselves helps us find our true calling to serve and love our brothers and sisters.
Once again we cannot die to ourselves simply for ourselves…we must always do so in service of a greater good, a holy cause which draws a deeper and more profound love from our hearts. This is always first and foremost found in our prayer with and for others seeking to understand the blessings we have received and are called to share with the community.
God Bless
Fr. Mark

So once more, thank you to all who have supported our “Clean Shave for a Clean Start” campaign…if all goes well we will be shaving on the steps of St. Lucy Church on July 14th at around 2:30 p.m. in the afternoon. The money we are raising is to close the gap in the ADA and Capital Campaign so we can confidently plan for the renovations knowing we have the resources on hand to complete the full project. Attached is the link to donate…all gifts, large and small, are important in building the camaraderie of a community of joy.

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In the Name of the Father…

In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit…Amen.
This may be the most common prayer said by Catholics throughout time. It is a prayer that begins and ends all other prayers we may say throughout the day. It is the complete and full acknowledgment of the Trinitarian love of God. It is a prayer of blessing we offer to each other over and over again.
Why am I talking about the Sign of the Cross? This Sunday we are celebrating the Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity. And this is an important blessing within our faith and our understanding of who God is in our lives and how he desires to be in communion with his creation.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches, “The Christian begins his day, his prayers, and his activities with the Sign of the Cross: “in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.” The baptized person dedicates the day to the glory of God and calls on the Savior’s grace which lets him act in the Spirit as a child of the Father. The sign of the cross strengthens us in temptations and difficulties.” (#2157)
We can often see sports athletes make the Sign of the Cross. Many soccer players make this sign as they enter the game and baseball players often will make the sign before an at-bat. It is a reminder that these players aren’t making the Sign of the Cross to not swing at a ball outside the strike zone or to score a goal. They are making the sign as an offering to the glory of God. I remember many years ago in an interview a player was asked by a reporter why he made the Sign of the Cross? The player simply responded, “It was an act of thanksgiving. Thanking God for the gift of being able to play a game he loved so much.” He added, “While he never asked God to help him get a hit. He did ask God to help him do his very best.”
This of course is a wonderful and perfect answer. We make the Sign of the Cross as an act of thanksgiving in seeking to do the will of God in our lives, as we seek to allow God to fully participate in our lives. But this isn’t always what happens.
I like so many Catholics can fall into the hand wave habit of the signing of myself. I watch in fascination at times to the quick wave of the hand, the abbreviated motion, the half finished and other forms of the Sign of the Cross that happens at Mass, meals, meetings, in the street or wherever else Catholics pray. It can become, like many memorized prayers, a rote habit that looses all meaning and we fail to appreciate the power of the Cross in our lives. The Sign of the Cross is a mark of our faith and a tool to help us remember the presence of God as Father, Son and Holy Spirit in our lives.
We are called to remember through this simplest of prayers how the Most Holy Trinity calls us into a relationship of love which they model. Jesus throughout the Gospels reminds us, his disciples, of how he and the Father are one and how he will send the Holy Spirit upon us to unite us as one with the Father. This is a promise we remember and hope to fulfill each time we make the Sign of the Cross.
My challenge for all of this week is each time we “cross” ourselves we do so intentionally recalling he words and the great mystery we profess. Trusting that this simple prayer surrounds and protects us from “all temptations and difficulties”
God bless
Fr. Mark

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Happy Anniversary

This should be kept in mind, in particular: whatever a priest may plan, resolve, or do to become holy, he will have to draw, for example and for heavenly strength, upon the Eucharistic Sacrifice which he offers, just as the Roman Pontifical urges: “Be aware of what you are doing; imitate what you hold in your hands.” (#56 Sacerdotii Nostri Primordia Pope St. John XXIII)

The quote above is one of my favorite as a reminder how I, as a Catholic priest and follower of Jesus Christ, am called to conform my life. Many of you know that this past week on June 4th I celebrated the 14th anniversary of my ordination to the priesthood. And I would like to take some time to reflect on my journey and how we are called to seek God in our vocation that is proper to our lives. When I entered the seminary in the fall of 2000 I had know idea of the blessings, the thorns, the joys, the sorrows and yes, the cross that God would ask me to share. I was heading off to my pastoral year at St. Catherine of Alexandria parish when the priest abuse scandal became widely known and I remember living in shock, anger and frustration during those months as the list of names and those removed from ministry continued to grow. But it was also a time of great spiritual growth and understanding how when we, as Catholics; priests, religious and laity, choose to conform ourselves to the Eucharistic sacrifice, we begin to see how the mercy, love and healing grace of God converts hearts and helps us overcome sin and continue to participate and work in the vineyard of our Lord.

Configuration to Christ in sacramental ordination places the priest at the heart of God’s people. It allows him to participate in a way proper to him, an in conformity with the whole structure of the ecclesial community, in the triple munus Christi. The priest, acting in person Chirsti Capitis, feeds the flock, the people of God, and leads them to sanctity. hence the need for credible witness to the faith in all aspects of priestly life and in his respect for the celebration of the sacraments. (p 22 “The Priest and the Third Christian Millennium”)

God placed me into the heart of his Church. It began at St. Martin of Tours, then Holy Spirit, then St. Catherine and now at St. Lucy. He placed me in the heart of his Church in my work with Worldwide Marriage Encounter and the Engaged Encounter community. He placed me in the heart of his Church in guiding parish schools, helping families to grow and nurture their faith. He has place me in the heart of his Church in my work with the young adults of our valley with the Young Catholic professionals and most recently in helping a faithful Catholic woman to found a ministry reaching out to young single mothers to help them heal and be re-united to the Body of Christ. In doing these ministries (and a few more) God has placed me into the heart of his Holy Catholic Church to witness to his love, his mercy and his forgiveness by seeking the face of his son Jesus Christ in all whom I am called to serve.

“The first service to render to the community is prayer. And therefore, time for prayer must be given a true priority in our life. I know that there are many urgent things: as regards myself, an audience, a document to study, a meeting or something else. But if we are not interiorly in communion with God we cannot even give anything to others. Therefore, God is the first priority. We must always reserve the time necessary to be in communion of prayer with our Lord.” (p 50 “The Priest: A Bridge to God” Pope Benedict XVI)

It is during those dark times that the Eucharist and prayer became real and my conversations with God became deeper and life-giving. It is where, in God’s classroom of silence, I discovered a beloved Father who waited for me with patience and my priority became His will and not my own. Yes, I still have my times of ego but they become less and less as I live with in the heart of his Church and see the example of the many holy people, who are the Catholic Church, seeking to do the ministry of God’s grace and life in the world. I have discovered my prayer with God, centered on the Eucharist, has become his voice whispering in my soul.

““Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers, and if he does listen to teachers, it is because they are witnesses.” St. Peter expressed this well when he held up the example of a reverent and chaste life that wins over even without a word those who refuse to obey the word. It is therefore primarily by her conduct and by her life that the Church will evangelize the world, in other words, by her living witness of fidelity to the Lord Jesus the witness of poverty and detachment, of freedom in the face of the powers of this world, in short, the witness of sanctity.”(#41 Evangelii nuntiandi Pope St. Paul VI)

When Pope St. Paul VI wrote the above quote I am sure that he had know idea of the scope and damage the scandals of the last 20 years would do to the priests ability to witness to the faith. But here is the great part…St. Paul VI didn’t write this above quote to just priests…he wrote it to every faithful Catholic…he called us all to be witnesses to the faith and in doing so inspire priests, bishops, cardinals and even Popes to live their vows with joyfulness and hope…to truly be the holy people God calls us to be. As I end this short letter, I ask you to do three simple things: first celebrate the Eucharist as often as you can…it is life giving and our strength against evil, second pray daily for the sanctification of our Church and the holiness of your priests…it does work and it is powerful and lastly, as Pope Francis reminds us again and again, be joyful…bless those we meet and know with a joyful heart even as we carry our cross.

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God bless
Fr. Mark.

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The Spirit of De-bearding

God Bless
Fr. Mark

The Gift of Shaving Creme from a parishioner

Earlier this week I received two checks and a can of shaving creme. Later in the week I was given a check and in the payee line had the words, “St. Lucy Fr. Mark debearding.” It was accompanied by a little heart, so I guess that made it okay.
As many of you know my parish, St. Lucy, is in the middle of a mini-campaign “Clean Shave for a Clean Start” with the prize being my “debearding.” It has all been great fun (at least until the razor hits the face) but it is also part of who we are called to be as a Church in our Catholic faith. The Gospel message of Jesus Christ is a message of joy and deep peace where we conform ourselves with God’s blessing and love.
Don’t get me wrong, we are raising this money for a very serious purpose and we vitally need the support of the parish community to reach our goal so we may move forward with confidence in the renovation projects at St. Lucy but we are to do so knowing God walks with us. Pope Francis reminds us of this when he writes, “Hard times may come, when the cross casts its shadow, yet nothing can destroy the supernatural joy that “adapts and changes, but always endures, even as a flicker of light born of our personal certainty that, when everything is said and done, we are infinitely loved”. That joy brings deep security, serene hope and a spiritual fulfillment that the world cannot understand or appreciate.” (Gaudete et Exsultate #125) The “deep security and serene hope” are the gift of unity and joy. Yes, there are difficult moments and financial worries which we all can carry but ultimately in trust and hope we place these doubts into God’s hands allowing Him to lead us forward.
In any campaign, whether it is raising funds, deepening our prayer life or loosing weight we recognize how when we are united with one another we the find strength and courage to move forward. Pope St. John Paul II in writing on the Eucharist describes how this unity flows from our participation in the banquet (the Mass) with all of God’s holy people, “Eucharistic communion also confirms the Church in her unity as the body of Christ. Saint Paul refers to this unifying power of participation in the banquet of the Eucharist when he writes to the Corinthians: “The bread which we break, is it not a communion in the body of Christ? Because there is one bread, we who are many are one body, for we all partake of the one bread” (1 Cor 10:16-17). ( Ecclesia de Eucharistia #23) While the campaign can be fun and joyous, like my Mom’s video, without the participation of the Church in moving forward we are never able to fully live in the joy and blessing of our vocational calling to holiness. Holiness comes with a sacrificial joy finding it foundation in our Eucharistic life as St. John Paul II points out, we are “constantly renewed and consolidated by sharing in the Eucharistic Sacrifice, especially by that full sharing which takes place in sacramental communion. We can say not only that each of us receives Christ, but also that Christ receives each of us.” (Ecclesia de Eucharistia #22)
Being united with the other, whether it be family or friends, is an invitation into a conversation of love and joy. It is a blessing of the energy that is found in joy, in the coming together for a common good where even in struggle and pain there is a deep sense of satisfaction. This can never happen in solitude and will never happen in solitude when we are in a daily prayerful conversation with God. As Pope Benedict XVI in his wisdom writes, “When I can no longer talk to anyone or call upon anyone, I can always talk to God. When there is no longer anyone to help me deal with a need or expectation that goes beyond the human capacity for hope, he can help me. When I have been plunged into complete solitude …; if I pray I am never totally alone.” (Spe Salvi #32)
Even in our fears there is the hope and blessing of God’s goodness and love because of His desire to enter more deeply into our lives. I pray deeply for the continued growth in stewardship in our Catholic Church knowing when we share our time, talent and treasure we are made better as a community. I pray daily for others to join us in building a new and greater Church filled with saints and sinners who desire a deeper unity with Jesus Christ. Because even in the trials and tribulations of life we are reminded by our Holy Father Francis, “Like the prophet Jonah, we are constantly tempted to flee to a safe haven. It can have many names: individualism, spiritualism, living in a little world, addiction, intransigence, the rejection of new ideas and approaches, dogmatism, nostalgia, pessimism, hiding behind rules and regulations. We can resist leaving behind a familiar and easy way of doing things. Yet the challenges involved can be like the storm, the whale, the worm that dried the gourd plant, or the wind and sun that burned Jonah’s head. For us, as for him, they can serve to bring us back to the God of tenderness, who invites us to set out ever anew on our journey. (Gaudete et Exsultate #134)

Hermana Maria del Rosario really wants the beard to go!

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Checking of the Box

Jesus in Prayer

Checking off the boxes of life. Is that how we choose to live our lives? Often times we can begin something with great love, enthusiasm and enjoyment and as time goes on the routine and the often mundane aspects of whatever it is begins to remove the luster from the action and we begin the just, “check off the box” and move on to the next thing on our list…where we just “check off the box.” And while we can point out many things in life where we do the “checking off” this is not how God has intended us to live.
As a priest I can fall into this temptation and it can even become a sin as I “check off the box” of my ministry. This is why yearly retreats, days of prayer and renewal and good friends are important because they are the checks and balances agains falling into the routines and habits that begin to suck the joy and blessing out of life. It is when we practice the intentionality of knowing God and one another more deeply we form life-giving bonds that do not permit us to live life “checking off the boxes.”
Pope St. John Paul II when reflecting on his 50th anniversary of priesthood wrote this about these relationships, “I was able to grasp more fully how much the priesthood is linked to pastoral ministry and the apostolate of the laity. A close connection, or, better, a mutual correlation, exists between priestly service and the lay apostolate.” (p 54 from “Gift and Mystery”) We are reminded by St. John Paul II of how the connectedness of our mission within the Body of Christ is a life sustaining gift we are called to nurture and cherish. When I am able to be in a communion of service with those who I am called to serve then the checking off of boxes becomes an impossibility as I am confronted with the face of Jesus each day.
And this is true for each and every member of the Body of Christ, young or old, married, single, consecrated or ordained, male or female…it doesn’t matter because we are all called into the same service…just in different ways.
Retreats, taking time away from the ordinary. Retreats can be very formal…at a retreat house or other setting…or they can be informal such as a week at the beach. What makes it a retreat and not simply another vacation is the intentionality of bringing God into the daily movements of the day. I highly recommend a “retreat” experience in the formal sense but if not then when you head off for a week of “vacation” don’t forget to bring God. Take time daily for spiritual reading, prayer with the family, times to share the blessings received that day, laughing with each other in the joy of God’s love and speaking from the heart about the desires and hopes of the future and entrusting them to God.
Days of Prayer, (or hours, or minutes) unite us with God. These aren’t days of sitting down, kneeling and isolation rather they are days of listening to a voice of love. If you are married, if you have children, if you are very busy with work…all of these are challenges but challenges which can be overcome with the desire to love another greater. Prayer, either alone or with others, helps us to reassess where we are at in our life and our relationship to God and others. We should always know why we are going to pray and for whom we are asking God’s intercession and why we are offering thanksgiving. If a husband takes his wife into prayer: offering the gratitude and blessings of their relationship then the desire and gift of service comes more freely as he is able to see her as the treasure of love given by God and not simply another thing to deal with in the day.
Good friends: People who will call your bluff and hold you accountable for your choices. A while back a friend called me and asked if I was available for golf…I looked at my very busy schedule and said,“no.” He then asked the last time I had picked up my clubs (it had been a long time) and when he heard my answer told me he was booking a tee time and to clear my calendar. The resistance was great…even my days off had become work…then I heard his wife in the background call out…”and you can come to dinner. The kids will love to see you.” I think there may have been a conspiracy brewing but ultimately the calendar was cleared, the game was played the dinner was celebrated and the community was joined.
Our Holy Father Pope Francis leaves us with this beautiful reflection from the closing paragraphs of his Apostolic Exhortation “Amoris Laetitia: The Joy of Love” where he writes, “It is a profound spiritual experience to contemplate our loved ones with the eyes of God and to see Christ in them. This demands a freedom and openness which enable us to appreciate their dignity. We can be fully present to others only by giving fully of ourselves and forgetting all else. Our loved ones merit our complete attention. Jesus is our model in this, for whenever people approached to speak with him, he would meet their gaze, directly and lovingly (Mk 10:21). No one felt overlooked in his presence, since his words and gestures conveyed the question: “What do you want me to do for you?” (Mk10:51). This is what we experience in the daily life of the family. We are constantly reminded that each of those who live with us merits complete attention, since he or she possesses infinite dignity as an object of the Father’s immense love. This gives rise to a tenderness which can “stir in the other the joy of being loved. Tenderness is expressed in a particular way by exercising loving care in treating the limitations of the other, especially when they are evident”” (#323)

God Bless
Fr. Mark

The Joy of a Beard

Each morning when I begin my Office of Readings I begin with two simple phrases: “O Lord, open my lips—and my mouth will proclaim your praise” followed by “The Lord is Risen, Alleluia.” These two short prayers remind me, as they remind the Church, of why we open our eyes, our hearts and live our lives each day. It is a call to live and proclaim why we choose to serve in joy.
If you have been reading me for a while you know the struggles and joys of serving our holy Church. Ultimately, we always serve with hope where my lips and voice are called to recall my heart and the heart of all to the service of the Joy of the Gospel, as our Holy Father Francis reminds us over and over again.
A part of the joy is to find fun and laughter in service of God…which gets me to the beard that resides on my face…the beard which I have offered to God on behalf of the people of God…the beard that I hope will put a lot of “fun” in the fundraiser at my parish St. Lucy.
Believe it or not the beard has been a source of much controversy in the life of the Catholic Church. You can even go to the Catholic Encyclopedia and there is a whole article on the pendulum of opinions on the wearing of beards by priests and clerics. Every morning when I sit at my prayer altar and look up at the images of the saints that hang on the wall before me I see many bearded saints, men of great holiness whom I call upon to pray with me and saints whom I hope to emulate in my call to serve God’s Holy people. If you want to read a short history I will place a link below to the online Catholic Encyclopedia.
My reasons for a beard are complicated and with a bit of vanity on the top. My first beard began shortly after my discharge from the Marine Corps. Four years of shaving and short haircuts found its rebellion in not shaving and allowing my hair to grow to a proper length. The beard disappeared when I started working but came back in full and complete vengeance when I studied in Germany while attending Holy Names College (now University) and from that year on (1988) I have had a beard on my face, with a few minor exceptions, for the last 30 years.
Why the beard? Some of it involves a contrary spirit to the times. When I began the beard it wasn’t a common practice as it is today. I liked my face better with a beard. Yes, there is vanity. But mostly it has become the reality of how comfortable I am with my beard…it has become a part of me. I like to say it gives me a sense of courage, wisdom and uniqueness (yes, more vanity) I feel I would not have if I shaved my beard….but I will…for a price.
When this fun fundraiser was proposed…I was a bit, well really more than just a bit, resistant to the idea. But each time we shared the idea with someone the laughter and joy, much like at Mass last Sunday, ultimately drew my heart to be open to the joy, the fun, the blessing that will occur. What am I truly sacrificing…check out the link to the “Catholic Gentlemen” below. Humbly I will walk forth clean shaven, when we make our goal, and share the joy by leaving behind the vanity of the beard and sharing the joy of the Gospel.
God Bless
Fr. Mark

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Bearing the Child

Lord, grant me patience to allow my children room to grow from their mistakes.
I want so much to protect them and to help them through the hard lessons of this world.
Help us to growing understanding and you find common ground, calmly and patiently growing in unconditional love for you and for one another.
Mary, Mother of us all, help me to be a patient mother.
(from “Talking to God: Prayers for Catholic Women” by Julie Dortch Cragon)

This weekend our country celebrates Mother’s Day, a day of great blessing and joy for many families who celebrate mothers, both new and old, in their role in the cooperation in God’s plan for families in the world. I begin this article with a prayer because it is in prayer that the Christian mother finds herself united more closely with God the Father and the earthly father of the child or children in her life.
Prayer, we know, is an essential link to our life with God. It is our daily conversation and our intimate time with our God in living our lives and sharing the daily graces and sufferings, the daily blessings and struggles as we seek to follow Him through our Lord Jesus Christ. But it is also true, when we bring our prayers to God for family, and in a special way for our children we find our connection with God not only strengthened but our connection and intimacy with spouse, children and family grows in strength and unity.
I know we understand this on a deep level where it almost seems natural as we journey through life…we hope and pray our young people grow in grace and peace in their lives but I also know just as we often put prayer on the back burner in our own lives for many reasons they busyness of the world often distracts us from truly offering prayer to God for those we love in all circumstances of our lives.
I remember at a Worldwide Marriage Encounter meeting several years ago how a couple shared the story of prayer and dreams for their children. They shared how they struggled with their children with arguments and stress filling the days. As they began to pray God inspired them to share their prayers with their children…not just the earthly desire for safety, good grades and a successful future but more importantly for their desire for them to grow in holiness, happiness and fruitfulness apart from the material. It is a reminder to us all: we are more than our material successes and failures, we are children of God. “Perhaps there is no greater gift we can give our children than the gift of our prayers. As parents we, almost without thinking, nursed their bodies and their minds throughout our daily activities with them, but it is in the praying fervently for our children that we can help the life of grace flourish within their souls, aiding God in transforming them into the children He desires them to be.” (from “A Parent Who Prays” by Katie Warner)
On this Mother’s Day weekend we are constantly reminded of how our mothers have prayed for us and hoped for our growing closer to God as the ultimate goal in our lives. We are reminded how God, the giver of all life, transforms us and invites us into a unity of love and grace.
Let us recall the gift of life where we are made in God’s holy and divine image. Archbishop Fulton Sheen reminds us of how each child, born into the world, through the mother’s life-giving love is made in the image of God seen in the incarnation of Jesus Christ. “Motherhood recalls that the best lives are those in which the physical and the spiritual development are never separated, as in the mother and in her child’s education; both grow together. Precisely because of the soul, there is body development at each instant. The Christian mother is like Simeon, who took the forty-day-old Divine Child into his arms. But the true picture is not that he bore the Child, but the Child bore him. The mother, too, will see herself not merely physically bearing a child, but the Child, composed of the body and soul inseparably, bearing her.” (from “Three to Get Married” by Bishop Fulton J. Sheen)
Happy Mother’s Day!
God Bless
Fr. Mark

Yesterday, Today and Forever

As I begin the 58th year of my life it is a great blessing to share my ministry with so many wonderful people. It is always interesting to look back to see where God has led you to be and to look forward in the hopefulness of blessing and peace that Jesus Christ offers to us.
The month of May always starts with my birthday and the recognition how the Memorial of St. Joseph the Worker fills my life with joy. And the greater joy for the Diocese of San Jose was the transition to a new bishop, Bishop Oscar Cantú, who began the shepherding of our local Church on the 1st of May. As I have talked about before, the whole of my priesthood and my training in seminary has been under the watchful eye of Bishop Patrick and so for the very first time in my priesthood I will have to remember a different name in the Eucharistic prayers but also learn the new blessings that come with a new bishop in the diocese. But a few things will remain the same, in the Decree from the Second Vatican Council, “Christus Dominus: Concerning The Pastoral Office of Bishops in the Church” we are reminded that pastors and priests, under the guidance of the bishop have two important missions. First and foremost is care of souls, “In exercising this care of souls, pastors and their assistants should so fulfill their duty of teaching, sanctifying and governing that the faithful and the parish communities will truly realize that they are members both of the diocese and of the universal Church…Moreover, the care of souls should always be infused with a missionary spirit so that it reaches out as it should to everyone living within the parish boundaries. If the pastor cannot contact certain groups of people, he should seek the assistance of others, even laymen who can assist him in the apostolate.” (#30)
There is a lot of church speak in the above passage but the main thrust is as our Holy Father Pope Francis puts it, to “smell like the sheep” to “go out to the boundaries” and especially to listen and proclaim the Gospel message with joy and hope. To be “infused with missionary spirit” is the invitation to be open to seeking new ways to talk with our brothers and sisters, both Catholic and non-Catholic in the example of Jesus Christ. In doing this we fulfill the second mission, “In the exercise of their teaching office it is the duty of pastors to preach God’s word to all the Christian people so that, rooted in faith, hope and charity, they will grow in Christ, and as a Christian community bear witness to that charity which the Lord commended.’ (#30)
But wait, there is more…”Christus Dominos” as do so many of the Church teachings, reminds us of the call to all baptized Christians to do the work of evangelization. It is perhaps the greatest joy that I experience is this work of evangelization with the people of the parish as their wisdom, enthusiasm and joy fill the Church with the breath of life and the hope of a more peaceful future. The whole point is of course a universal truth that has been lived out through the ages in our Catholic Church: it is made up of the living stones of individuals and families called to serve God. Popes come and go. Bishops come and go. And yes, pastors and priests come and go. But who remains is Jesus Christ…yesterday, today and forever…as we pray so very often. The gift we each bring, no matter our place within the Body of Christ, is a gift of blessing and love. Each of us is invited and called to share in the building of the Kingdom of God’s holy Catholic Church. How are you going to use your gift(s) today?
God bless…He is Risen Alleluia
Fr. Mark

Lifting Our Heart in Prayer

Merciful Jesus I consecrate myself today and always to your most Sacred Heart.
Most Sacred heart of Jesus, I implore, that I may ever love you more and more.
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, I Trust in You!
Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us!
Sacred Heart of Jesus, I believe in Your love for me.
Jesus, meek and humble of heart, make my heart like Your Heart.

Prayer is a powerful and integral part of every Christian life. It’s a call to be in direct conversation with the Most Holy Trinity and to walk with our Lord Jesus, the second person of the Trinity, on his Way to the Cross. Prayer is also a powerful guide to a life of holiness and grace.
The prayer above is my daily consecration to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. While I was teaching in New Mexico in the early 1990’s I found a book that was donated to the mission about the devotion to Jesus’ Sacred Heart. I read about St. Margaret Mary Alacoque and began for the first time in my life to willingly pray a Novena and it is the above prayer that I begin each day and the prayer I end all other prayers with, whether it is my morning office, the sacrifice of the Mass, my Rosary it is the prayer that calls me to the most intimate part of Jesus and to rest within his Sacred Heart.
When people ask me how to pray, I can share with them basic strategies and some sound advice that are readily available from a host of reliable Catholic spiritual guides and evangelist. These open us up to some basic forms of prayer but I always end with the understanding and truth that where or when we encounter Jesus in prayer He will lead us into a path that bonds us ever closer to the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. I remind them of how prayer is like marriage. I can share with them sound principles, that are tried and true guides to building a strong, loving and enduring marriage but it is only when the man encounters the woman in a deep and profound conversation of love that they will begin to see how the advice becomes alive in their unique relationship with God and each other. (See my Worldwide Marriage Encounter ad below)

“Be with us this day.
Give us courage to be strong, loving and wise;
strong in prayer,
loving in service,
and wise ministers of your mercy.” (DSJ prayer of priests)

This short snippet from the prayer all the priests of the Diocese of San Jose were given and asked to pray a few years ago has become a staple of my daily prayer too…especially in my morning prayer. This call to action is a reminder of how our prayer changes throughout our lives. Prayers we find powerful and impactful today may slowly fade away as we hear the call of God to follow him into a new and more profound relationship. It is similar to how when reading the Gospels, such as the Parable of the Sower (Mark 4:1-20) we see and understand different aspects of Jesus’s call to become fruitful and life giving in our lives. I pray the prayer above not because I was asked but because it has, particularly this small part, touched my life and moved me to be stronger, more loving and gracious in the service of God’s holy people.

Let nothing disturb you,
let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things
Whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices: (St. Teresa of Avila)

Lastly, I end with a prayer that has been a blessing for many years, first as the Taizé prayed during the Holy Thursday adoration, but also a part of my spiritual journey of singing these simple but beautiful truths of God’s love in our life. St. Theresa of Avila a Doctor of the Church reminds us of the trust we are to have in God’s plan. It is a prayer I use during my night prayer as a way of calming and opening my heart to the restful sleep I desire. Finally, I offer you words of much greater wisdom that I have from Archbishop Venerable Fulton J. Sheen, “Prayer consists not in the saying of words but in the lifting of our heart and mind to God. Our divine Lord Himself warned us: “In praying do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do; for they think they will be heard for their many words” (Matt. 6:7). In the same spirit, St. Augustine said: “We may pray most when we say least, and we may pray least when we say most.”…Prayer is a dialogue, not a monologue. “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you” (James 4:8). The joy of a Christian comes not from intermittent devotions and vocal prayers, but by living the Christ life intimately and to such an extent that even in our failings and weakness we may still betray our familiarity with Christ, as did Peter in the moment of his weakness: “You also were with Jesus the Galilean … Certainly you are also one of them, for your accent betrays you” (Matt. 26:69, 73). (from “Wartime Prayerbook by Venerable Fulton J. Sheen)

Fr. Mark